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>> They should have equal power.
Whenever they disagree, they should compromise.
< What happens if one of the spouse refuses to compromise?
< Then they should get marriage counseling.
< Well, the husband should be the first, otherwise what happens if both the husband and wife disagree all the time?
< Then they both compromise.
< That violates what Paul and Genesis says.
Please look at below arguments.
< Paul says for wives to submit to their husbands.
Eph 5:24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands.
It also says this:
Eph 5:25 Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her,....
Eph 5:28 In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.
So if wives were to submit to their husbands, then the husbands are to love them as Christ loved the church.
Eph 5:33 However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.
>> But submission is not about compromising!
It's about respect.
Eph 5:33 However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.
< It is be about respect, but when it comes to daily choices, it also has to do with decisions.
"There are all kinds of daily situations where one must submit to another. Husbands and wives need to make decisions daily about certain things. These decisions are not always to separate the good from the evil, but deciding what’s the best thing to do in a particular situation
http://www.divorcehope.com/husbandwifesubmissionsubmitmarriage.htm
< Should the wife still submit if the husband doesn't love his wife as Christ loved the church?
It isn't fair to submit to someone who is bad and not loving.
< Probably not.
Paul did urge spouses to not divorce if their spouse is not a believer, so long the unbelieving spouse is willing to live with them.
1Co 7:12 To the rest I say (I, not the Lord) that if any brother has a wife who is an unbeliever, and she consents to live with him, he should not divorce her.
1Co 7:13 If any woman has a husband who is an unbeliever, and he consents to live with her, she should not divorce him.
[ and the next verses explains why not to divorce ]
However, he doesn't address the issue of submission to an unbeliever... he only addresses submission to a believer who loves his wife as Christ loved their church. However, I believe he did say that with submission to an unbeliever, a wife can win her husband, but I can't find the scripture.
< In Genesis, it says that man should rule over their wives.
"Gen 3:16 To the woman he said, "I will surely multiply your pain in childbearing; in pain you shall bring forth children. Your desire shall be for your husband, and he shall rule over you." ">> But Genesis can't be taken literally.
>> But this is an OT covenant.
It is not binding on Christians.
< Some OT laws are included in the new covenant.
Please click here for more details.
< But Jesus took away the sin of the world, so this curse isn't relevant today.
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